Where have I been?

Its been so long since I wrote last that is feels like have been off the horse for years. In truth, it has been a far too long, my last post was in January of this year.

I have many reasons why I haven’t written in nearly 3 months, but there’s no value on focusing on those. But, for context, I’m going to list a few below before I get to the main context of the post.

My reasons (excuses) are:

  1. I Spent 6 weeks filling in for my manager at work and was literally exhausted at the end of the day.
  2. My wife started a new job, so there was a swift change in priorities to step up and do my part and support her as she went back to fulltime work.
  3. The last thing I wanted to do over the last 3 months was write.

As you can see, there is some validity there, but they’re mainly rubbish excuses.

The true reasons I didn’t write for so long have more to with how my brain works and how I see myself. And those are the topics I want to explore a bit more in this post.

Momentum trumps motivation.

Motivation is like snake oil. When you haven’t got it, you think its what you need to solve all your problems, but once you have it, you realise it isn’t all its cracked up to be and it smells funny. For the longest time I didn’t really do much because I was waiting for my motivation to arrive.

Sadly, I think my latest lot of motivation was being delivered by Australia Post!

Needless to say, it didn’t arrive.

Yet, while I was in the midst of writing at the end of last year I had so much motivation that I thought it would be more than enough to see me through 2021.

Sadly, that wasn’t true.

As soon as I backed off the accelerator in January, I lost all momentum, which was the beginning of my downfall.

You see, momentum is where it’s at over the long term.

And how does momentum start, well by movement of course. And movement starts with action.

It doesn’t need to be perfect action, or even long-lasting action with massive impact. All you need to do is do something.

Once you’ve done something every single day for a month or so, you’ll gain momentum…and motivation….and pizza! Ok, maybe not pizza…. but you might, I did!

The hard part with keeping momentum comes when your course (and priorities) change. You’ll either keep momentum or not, and most of the time the choice won’t be yours.

If you do lose it, then you need to give yourself time to reset and go again.

You may have to repeat this process many times, and if so, then so be it. There’s no way to cheat this.

If you’re comfortable, the you’re doing it wrong.

There are only several things excluding from this saying…… and even then, that’s questionable!

We all seek comfort, we all seek easy, we all seek relaxation.

The truth is comfort can be crippling and a hard thing to break out of.

I get it, I’ve been there, many times. So many times, in fact that I got life membership and my own parking space.

Becoming uncomfortable seems odd at first, and nearly everyone you speak to won’t get it. Which is fine, if we were all uncomfortable, none of us would be.

But, speaking from experience, there are many times in life where you’ll be uncomfortable.

Most will walk away or try to avoid it. Some won’t have a clue what to do and fuck it up. Very few will prosper.

So, how do you become uncomfortable?

Shit question, but I’ll answer it anyway!

Firstly, get up at 5am and do exercise. If you normally get up at 5am, then get up at 4am. Some of the highest achievers on this planet get up early and start their day off with exercise. I did it for quite some time and it really works. I’m often tempted to get up at 4am and start my day off strong, but my bed is too comfortable!

Alternatively, you could start you day with a cold shower.

I’m not sure how this works, but it works.

Maybe it’s science or maybe its Maybelline. Honestly, it just wakes you the fuck up…REAL QUICK!

It also helps you cut down on your water bill, so it’s a double win!

Know your self-worth.

This is the element that I struggle with the most.

If you want to learn the tips and tricks from all the online Guru’s out there, then all you need to do is scroll the interwebs for several minutes and you’ll find heaps of them. But, don’t come crying to me when most of them don’t work.

How I see self-worth is a little different. It involves truth, a desire to be forever learning and a smothering of humility.

To know your self-worth, you need to be truthful within yourself. You need to be honest about your flaws and well as you value, and values (they are different). When you’re not doing good enough and are being lazy, you need to identify that and call yourself out.

Now, I wouldn’t recommend doing this one bus on your way home, people might think that you’re crazier than you actually are!

But as some point you need to front up to yourself and dish out a healthy dose of self-reflection.

Your self-worth is also directly attributed you your desire (and action) to keep learning. This will keep you fresh and stop your ideals from becoming outdated.

Self-worth isn’t cocky or arrogant, there’s other names for these things.

You need to realise that you are human and will be wrong on many occasions. There will be times that you’ll need to apologise and times where you’ll have to face the fury.

Its for you own good, so don’t avoid it.

Likewise, as a humble being, you know that there is value in others and that you are the biggest fish in the sea. Stay in your lane and keep working.

So, what’s next?

I have no idea; I haven’t thought that far ahead yet.

I do know that I need to get moving again and get things back on track.

I also know that the reason that I didn’t keep momentum is because I chose not to. This is extremely powerful, because it gives me the power to fix it.

I have no one to blame but myself, which is good, because I hold all the keys!

Now to just figure out which one fits this damn lock………

‘til next time….. Cheers!

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