There is a strange and mysterious thing that happens every day, its origins are often debated and carry a lot of speculation. This occurrence is so reliable that we don’t often notice that it has happened. Yet, its existence is a critical component to all our lives.
Every single day the sun rises and the sun sets. It does so relentlessly, unperturbed and unaffected. Its beauty and magnificence often go unnoticed until such times as its simply to amazing to ignore.
And no matter what is happening in our life, the sun will rise, and the sun will set.
This provides us with the ability to manage our day to day mood and interactions.
For those of you who read yesterday’s blog, yesterday was a shit day for me.
But the sun set and then it raised again, and guess what? Today was different, I was more productive, the interactions were good (one particular interaction was amazing!) and I felt like I accomplished a lot from the day.
Is it always like this?
No, its not, there will be days so bad that the mood lingers for several days. But here’s the thing, it only lingers because you let it. It’s your choice to stay in a shit mood, and equally, it’s your choice to wake up to a new day and be in a different mood.
And yes, I believe that it’s a choice. Regardless of all other things, we choose our mood just as much as we choose who we are. These things are not separate of each other, our choices are no different.
But how do I just let go of a bad day?
Simple, grab your favourite stuffed toy, hold it tight and wish all the bad stuff out of your life.
Got ya there!
In reality, its not that easy. First you need to accept your part in the bad day, if you blame everyone else then you won’t be motivated to change anything. We all have our own part to play in any scenario. Even when we are the victim. Our part is how we see ourselves and how we make ourselves accountable.
This is not to be confused with denial or thinking that where happened in the day is our fault.
Quite the contrary, our part is in the response. Its critical reflecting on how we managed a situation or occurrence. Not all things are equal, so the level of reflection will vary, but you’ll never be able to move past something until you do this.
Once this is done, then go to sleep with a clear head. If you’re still struggling, remind yourself that the day is done, tomorrow is not today, and you chose your future. I know this mantra seems a little shit, but you can’t change your mindset until you change what you think and how you manage your internal dialog.
Ok, but how do I start fresh the next day?
This is the easy part; all you do is get up and start the day all over again. No expectations, no baggage, a change of clothes and a fresh nappy, ready to take on the world.
The aim is to start each day fresh and independent of the last, because its exactly that, completely independent of any other day.
Sure, you may do the same thing over and over and over again my friend, but we’re not on the eve of destruction (sorry, listening to The Screaming Jets at the moment). It really doesn’t matter if you do the same job each day or your job is varied or you have no job, its how you see the world that’s important.
I’ll give you a tiny example. Every day that I’m in the office, I take the bus to the city. Now, I take the same route at pretty much the same time each day (it varies by about 20 minutes depending on how slow I am on that morning) and generally see the same people get on and off at the same points, but not always. I also notice the regulars at coffee shops, but there are also randoms in there. The same is true for the cars, people, weather, doggo’s, etc, etc, etc. This bizarre nature of life happens all day until I arrive at home in the evening. I treat each day as different, because everything I see is a little different. It’s amazing how much two days can be so different, especially when you add humans to the mix………… and pigeons, pigeons are the definition of chaos, never trust a pigeon!
My point is this. There is so much happening in the world, your world, my world, their world, that no two days are the same, with one exception:
Sun rise, Sun set.
‘til next time…. Cheers!