Mother’s Day, much like any other selective celebration day ( for example: Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, etc), is something that has become a permanent fixture in our house, and while we celebrate it in simple terms, I’m always trying to add more of a personal touch. Whether that be in what I cook (with the help of some very part time kitchen hands), what we make or what we do; the aim is to always make it personal, not pricey.
Every year I’m reminded of the commercialised nature of Mother’s Day and how it has, in some ways, lost its intent as a celebration of Motherhood. Now, I concede that the commercial side of Mother’s Day is huge, there seems to be more and more offering to “Make mum feel special” and this is concerning. This dilution of the essence of the day is slowly turning it into a competition of brought affection and it shouldn’t be like that.
Over the years I have been sucked into the commercial aspect and wandered aimlessly around many shops looking for the perfect gift. I’ve fought through the sea of confused men’s faces as they struggle to comprehend what their wife or mother actually wants. I’ve seen kids drowning in the aroma of many smelly things, so much so, that I’m often worried that they might think their mum smells bad and really needs a shower! I too have fallen for the trap of a basket of smelly things, after all, smelly things are a woman’s best friend, right?
As I mature (much like an old cheese……again with the smelly!!), I now focus on the afore mentioned personalised nature on Mother’s Day. Take this year as an example. This year we made a paper rose bouquet, a relatively straight forward process of colouring, rolling and gluing paper roses; then placing them into a home-made vase. Easy stuff that I overcomplicated, but that’s par for the course in our house!
While I enjoy making my wife feel special each Mother’s Day (she deserves it in ever way), I’m still reminded that making the Mothers in our life feel special shouldn’t be something that’s reserved for just one day each year. We should be making them feel special each and every day, because it’s each and every day that they are putting others first and nurturing us, not to mention our future generations, so that we can do our thing.
Personally, I owe everything to my wife, she has been there through nearly all the tough moments of my life, she has sat by way too many hospital beds as I lay there lamenting some poor decision or outcome that’s led me there. She remains my strength when I feel my weakest and my light when I’m lost in the darkness. I would never have gotten to where I am without her and can truthfully say, my future would not be as certain if she wasn’t in my life.
As a side note: yes, I know ‘she’ is the cat’s mother, but we had cats for a while, so…….
My final point is this. Mother’s Day is an important day. But it should be a day where you go that extra mile to make them feel extra special. If you’re trying to do everything and show all your affection on one day, then you’re doing it wrong. In some ways we should celebrate Mother’s Day every day to some extent, doing so demonstrates that we acknowledge and appreciate the effort and value of these wonderful women in our everyday life.
Now go and ring your Mum, she has been waiting for your call since dawn!
‘til next time….. Cheers!